Rand’s Challenge: The Girl in the Red Turtleneck

“Transparency for me is a reaction.”

I stopped reading there. I was browsing the web while getting ready for work, and had stumbled on Rand Fishkin’s newest blog post. I don’t always read Rand’s blog, but when I do, I’m always impressed.

This goes beyond being impressed. I was blown away. It was a rare moment when someone’s words reach you at exactly the right time. 

For those of you not immersed in the SEO world, I’ll explain. If SEO was Game of Thrones, Rand Fishkin would be every single character (except Joffrey). Point is, he’s our Yoda, our Optimus Prime, our Bruce Lee.

“Rand Fishkin, I am.”

You can read the post in its entirety here, but to quickly sum it up, Rand’s talking self-improvement. He’s talking about recognizing your flaws and correcting your behavior. Whether you’re too defensive, too lazy, or too shy, why are you like that— and when did it start?

The first thing I wanted to do was write him an email. I stopped myself. No, I can’t do that.

This is an incredibly intimidating person, who up until now, I didn’t have a lot in common with. Besides being a role model and a resource, all Rand ever was to me was entirely above me, above everything. He’s way too much, all at once, to ever read an email from me.

I didn’t create this meme, but it’s still awesome.

This is a person, who in the few times I’ve met him, I’ve failed to find words. Instead of finding something intelligent to say, I convinced myself before even approaching him that he was “too smart, too successful” to get anything valuable out of a conversation with little old me. Instead of sharing my ideas with him, I showed him my Han Solo phone case and said, “I like Star Wars, too!”

Humiliating, right?

That was obviously before I read this post. At the very end, Rand challenged us:

“If you’re feeling especially transparent and are brave enough to share your discovery in a blog post, please leave it in the comments here, and I’d be thrilled to include it as a link in the post.”

Yikes. Do I dare write a blog post for Rand Fishkin to read? Do I risk allowing him to see my little blog– that actually, has very little to do with SEO? Will he think less of me for being an internet marketer that doesn’t ONLY care about internet marketing?

I don’t know. But I’m going to give it a shot and hope for the best. So here it is, my transparency, my deep dark secret… the girl in the red turtleneck.

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Throughout my youth, I was painfully shy. Quiet. I wasn’t confident in High School, I wasn’t popular, and I definitely wasn’t cool.

I remember passing a note, from one desk to another, and seeing one sentence that read:

“Everyone in here is so cool! Except for the girl in the red turtleneck.”

One guess who that was. Awesome. That note haunted me until I graduated.

Then came college. I pushed myself to make friends, to branch out. I tried to redefine myself as someone “cool”, someone “worthy”, someone who other people would want to know.

That’s why until this day, I’m always a little surprised when someone does notice me. Every job interview, every relationship, every opportunity that comes my way, I feel lucky, blessed… and then I get the feeling. The fear of, “what if they find out?”

That I’m not cool, that is. 

Me, pretending to be cool.

Me, pretending to be cool.

What if, instead of the thoughtful girl in Marketing, or the bucket list blogger, they see the girl in the red turtleneck? Instead of seeing a peer, they see that girl who never knew what to do with her hair, wore way too much makeup, and turned bright red whenever a boy even looked at her?

What if they find me out?

It crosses my mind sometimes. No matter how much successful I get, or how much I achieve, I wait for that girl to come back. I wait to pass the note, one person to another, that says- “Melissa is not cool. She sucks, and we should pass notes about her.”

The people who know me the best have never seen her. At least, they’ve never acted like it. I hear things like “you’re wonderful” or “you’re inspiring”, and I smile, thank them, nod yes, yes you’re right, I am… but then, I feel like I’m right back in that classroom.

I wonder how long it will be until the note is passed. 

In some ways, the girl in the red turtleneck is a blessing. She makes me want to be more. She makes me push harder.

But in every way that she’s made me better, she’s also weakened me. She’s made me wary of the same people who’ve admired me. She makes me want to impress them, wow them, blow them away…. but also, terrified that it won’t be enough.

It’s a defense mechanism that’s caused me to put up walls. Personally, in my relationships. Professionally, in feeling safe in my career.

No matter what I do right, even when I’m congratulated, with every pat on the back…. I still feel scared. I try to be brilliant, kind and thoughtful, but still wonder what I can do better— you know, so the red turtleneck doesn’t come out.

When I thought about Rand’s post– about bettering myself– I immediately wondered, what happened to that red turtleneck? Is it at my parents, in storage, with the rest of my N’SYNC t-shirts and old Converse sneakers? Maybe it’s a hand me down, passed down from my younger sister, then to my younger cousins.

It doesn’t matter where it is really, because no matter where it is, I’m still wearing it. I feel it around my neck when I don’t know the right answer to a question. I feel the itchy tag whenever someone says nice things about me.

I‘m scared to try to ditch it, but Rand’s right. It’s a long, painful journey to better yourself. Unless I outgrow the hypothetical turtleneck, I’ll be stuck where I am.

Maybe someday, years from now, when I own a company, I’ll meet Rand again. Instead of talking about Star Wars, I’ll talk about how I’ve grown and what I’ve achieved. And I’ll thank him for his post, his honesty, and finally, for helping me ditch that ugly red turtleneck.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Melissa’s Infinite Playlist

Have you ever seen Nick and Nora’s Infinite Playlist?

Yes, I agree- it’s a terrible movie. The only reason I liked it was for the title- infinite playlist?!

We’ve all got one of those lying around.

So here’s mine. Music is not one of my talents- I’m terrible at karaoke (which obviously makes me wonderful at it). However, despite my lack of musical talent, I do really love music.

At work, I’m known for my exceptionally large, white headphones. They shut out nearly all the noise around me. I really enjoy using music as a tool to shut out distractions, and with these babies, I can:

Large White Headphones

Large White Headphones- flashback to my short hair!

 

Anyway, here’s my “infinite” playlist. I hope you enjoy it!

1. “Echo” by Jason Walker

I found this song while browsing YouTube. I fell in love with the artist and listen to his songs religiously. This one in particular, really gets me:

I don’t wanna be an island, I just wanna feel alive…

2. “Daydreams” by Ryan Huston

I heard this song a few years ago through a friend. It’s incredibly…. I don’t know, hopeful?

“So give me the time, and I can be great…”

3. “Red House” by Jimi Hendrix

City of Angels is one of my all time favorite movies– especially the soundtrack. This was my first exposure to Jimi Hendrix:

“I have a bad bad feeling
that my baby don’t live here no more.”

4. “Feelin’ Love” by Paula Cole

I’m going to dip into some uncharted waters here… this song is probably the sexiest, steamiest song I’ve ever heard. This blog is rated PG, so I’ll leave it at that. It’s another song from City of Angels, and every time I hear it, I want to grab a Rolling Rock and soak in the tub.

Not going to post lyrics — you really need to hear the song to appreciate it.

5. “Damn, I Wish I Was Your Lover” by Sophie B. Hawkins

This song reminds me of a very good friend of mine, Lane— only because he dared me to sing it during a karaoke outing. It was embarrassing.  Anyway, it’s an oldie, but a goodie, and always makes me smile!

“I had a dream I was your hero…”

6. “Always” by Bon Jovi

If you want a good, classic rock song about love, this is it. A friend of mine requested “I’ll Be There For You” for me at a party, and instead, the DJ played this.

“It’s nothing but some feelings that this old dog kicked up…”

7. “Call Your Girlfriend” by Robyn

This song is just fantastic to dance to. It’s kind of empowering too- I think it’s the beat.

“Tell her that the only way her heart will mend, is when she learns to love again..”

I LOVE Robyn! She can really shake it!

8. “Red Shoes” by Elvis Costello

“Oh, I said “I’m so happy, I could die.”
She said “drop dead,” then left with another guy.

That part always makes me laugh.

9. “The Dog Days Are Over” by Florence + The Machine

This is just an all around, feel good song.

“She hid around corners and she hid under beds
She killed it with kisses and from it she fled
With every bubble she sank with her drink
And washed it away down the kitchen sink…”

10. “Closer” by Joshua Radin

This is one of the saddest, but at the same time, uplifting breakup songs ever written.

Just listen to it. Lyrics don’t do it justice.

11. “Honey and the Moon” by Joseph Arthur

I heard this song when I was a sophomore in high school…. before it was on the OC! I’ve been obsessed with it ever since.

“If you weren’t real I would make you up…”

12. “River of Dreams” by Billy Joel

My parents are huge Billy Joel fans, so I’ve heard this song over and over again since I was a kid. In college, I would crank it up and dance around my apartment when I was stressed out.

“In the middle of the night, I go walkin’ in my sleep…”

13. “Transatlanticism” by Death Cab for Cutie

This is such an amazing song. I can literally feel what the songwriter is feeling.

“The distance is quite simply much too far for me to row
It seems farther than ever before…”

14. “Dancing Away with my Heart” by Lady Antebellum

I’m a huge Lady A fan- the songs have SO much soul. I listened to these songs over and over again when I came back to North Carolina.

“I finally asked you to dance on the last slow song, beneath that moon that was really a disco ball.”

15.  ”Blue Jeans” by Lana Del Rey

My old co-worker Claire turned me on to Lana Del Rey. Some people think she’s a poser, but I really enjoy her music. This song is my favorite.

“Blue jeans, white shirt, walked into the room, you know you made my eyes burn. You know it was like James Dean, for sure.”

16.  ”Groovy Kind of Love” by Phil Collins

A sixteen song playlist is weird, but eh, don’t care. I never really thought of Phil Collins at all, until I heard this song in an amazing New Girl scene. Nick and Jess, along with Schmidt and Winston, start doing a slow version of the chicken dance to this song. It made me LOVE this song.

What’s on your infinite playlist?

Second Attempt at Having a Great Week -

I promised to try, in spite of my attempt last week, to have a great week. I got some interesting insights from this week, which actually, wasn’t so bad. Just busy.

Instead of a play by play, like my last post, here’s a list of wonderfully ironic and surprising things that happened to me this week.

1. I got some confidence back. 

 

Last year, actually, the past two, have been a little up and down. By the end of it, I felt like my confidence had gone through a paper shredder.
Through little victories this week, I got some of my mojo back. It’s amazing how one little boost of confidence can change your mood- it’s like it ripples through every part of your life.

2. I met someone who, was quite possibly, God in disguise. 

Thank you, Universe.

 

A curious stranger really restored my faith in the Universe. I had never met this individual before, and he just happened to catch me at the worst possible time. He was extremely patient and kind to me, for absolutely no reason. He took time out of his own night to make mine better. I don’t even know what his name was, but his words and wisdom really moved me. I guarantee his enthusiastic, “Oh sweetie, no, you don’t need that,”  will echo in my mind the next time I’m conflicted about something.

 

3. I got tapped for House Hunters.

House Hunters!

That’s pretty much it. A producer responded to my application for House Hunters. It probably won’t work out, but it’s still awesome to get a response.

4. I laughed. A lot. 

Best Days

Haha!

5. I danced!!

Not in fire, but it was still fun.

6. I got inspired.

Drawn.

I went to an art show of one of my co-workers last night. The venue was this neat little place in Wilmington called Projekte- a fun little place with artwork, music, antiques and wine. I was talking to a co-worker about this incredible class I took in college- a figure drawing class. Talking about it made me really nostalgic, and being around all of that creativity sparked something in me.

 

7. I officially fell in love with Wilmington. 

Where everything’s better and everything’s safe.

Wilmington is really a great place to live, but as a Philly girl, I had my doubts. When we first moved here, I recall walking downtown early one morning,
on the phone with my Mom. I was drinking an apricot iced tea from Port City Java and taking in the sights, chatting with her about my new town.
This overwhelming feeling of calm came over me, and I just knew that everything would be ok. I felt the same way this week. I spent more time downtown and felt really connected to the community.

8. I stopped freaking out over food.

Noms.

Noms.

I try to avoid junk food, but I let myself indulge this week. Nachos, cookies, wine…. ultimate noms.

9. I listened to really really cheesy music. 

Celine.

It was Celine Dion.

10.  I stopped being so scared. 

Thankful.

This goes hand in hand with confidence. Personally, when I’m not confident, I get scared. Of everything. I hesitate, I doubt, and that never leads anywhere good. This week, I just put it all out there. Time to stop being scared, unless, of course– it’s of a tornado. (Inside Joke: I’m terrified of tornadoes)

What do you think?
What did you learn this week?

A Little Boost

I decided to do an overly cocky, self-promoting post today. I could have written something uplifting and positive for everyone to enjoy, but instead, I decided to write something just for me. If you’re not interested, just X out— I won’t blame you.

It’s so easy to look at someone else and see how wonderful they are. I see people that inspire me every day. I have wonderful friends that I’ve had for years.

My best friend Annastacia is kick ass. She’s one of the strongest people I know. She never judges me, yet, never lets me get away with anything.

My husband is loyal and kind. He folds my underwear—seriously (sorry for the overshare, but that’s pretty impressive). Every morning, he kisses my forehead and tells me how much he loves me– no exaggeration, every single morning. 

My best friend Lane is adventurous and unstoppable. Childhood best friend and confidants Melissa and Nikki are sympathetic, yet honest and supportive. My baby sister is hilarious, beautiful and extremely intelligent.

Before I start on me, just one more. My brother Ricky is amazing. He’s one of the smartest, funniest, most incredible people I have ever had the privilege of knowing.

Which brings me to myself. Like I mentioned, it’s so easy to praise other people. It’s so difficult to look inward and see positive things about yourself…. but I’ll do my best without seeming too egotistical.

1. My hair looks nice curly.

Truth.

 

2. I’m goofy.

Goofy goober.

3. I shake it like a polaroid pic-tah!

Shake it, Elaine!

Shake it, Elaine!

 

4. I get excited. Sometimes, for no reason.

Excited.

 

5. I’m supportive.

Supportive….or something.

6. Mindy is unpredictable and sometimes, mean, but hell… she’s fun.

Mindy-town

Mindy-town

 

7. I keep it tight.

Keep it tight.

8. I like to give people gifts… sometimes, for no reason.

Give.

Give.

9. I’m still a little gullible. 

Whaaat?

10. I’m a foodie.

Yum.

What’s your favorite thing about yourself?

How to Have a Great Week: The Horrible Results & Funny .gifs

Well, the week’s over, and I have the unsatisfactory results.

This week was the worst. 

Despite my best efforts, everything that could go wrong did go wrong. Both of our cars broke down and needed expensive repairs, I had to cancel and postpone two events for the athletic team I coach, and by the time the weekend arrived, I was burnt out.

Here’s the breakdown:

My naive early Monday optimism.

Monday, Bright-Eyed and Optimistic: Monday started off well. I had a small win at work that I was super excited about and shared a nice lunch with my co-workers. By Monday afternoon, the initial excitement turned into humiliation when I realized I had made a really dumb error…. the huge win was actually a loss. I stayed optimistic. Monday night arrived, and I visited Sears for an oil change.

My Monday night…

What started out as “an hour wait” turned into more than two hours. My SUV somehow got stuck on the doo-hickey ramp, and the poor attendants scrambled to get it down. In addition to the wait, they revealed that I needed two brand new tires– immediately. I made it home around 10 PM, miserable.

I still got this.

Tuesday, Seeing a Silver Lining: Due to my tires being completely shot, I had to cancel an athletic event for the team I coach for. I felt terrible. However, my spirits were temporarily lifted when Sears called with a sincere apology- and a double refund. That brightened my day. Hopped up on paying it forward, I bought some desserts for a stressed out co-worker. That almost made the tire situation OK–but then I went back to Sears that night. The tires and installation turned out to be $300. Not including a realignment. Ouch.

Am I going to have a good week? Nope.

Wednesday, Not Feelin’ It: Wednesday was unremarkable. The highlight of my day was a salmon salad that I ate at my desk.

Thursday, So Over This Week: My team had their last game. They won! It was definitely by far, the best thing that happened to me all week. Afterwards, I met my co-workers at a local bar, thinking that they week was finally turning around. To celebrate, I bypassed my no drinking rule for the week. Feeling like I had unlocked a level of astonishing enlightenment- some days will suck, no matter what- I ordered a beer with the lowest % of alcohol.

Sums up my Thursday

There apparently was some confusion, because there’s no way that beer didn’t carry as much alcohol as absinthe. I’m exaggerating, obviously, but by the end of the night, I wasn’t pretty or enlightened.

By Friday Night…

Friday, Just End It, Please: Friday was full of more “happy” surprises. Left my debit card at the bar. Weather was getting nasty so a planned team dinner had to be rescheduled. Besides a friendly lunch with a co-worker, the day seemed longer than a E! Keeping Up with the Kardashians marathon.  Got home, ate soup, passed out.

My Weekend, summed up.

Saturday & Sunday, Officially Benched: By Saturday afternoon, I gave up on my perfect week. I watched a lot of TV, worked on my eBook, played on Pinterest and slept in.

I haven’t given up on my idea of having a perfect week. Sunday night, new start. If you don’t succeed, try and try again, right?

We’ll see.

 

 

How To Broil a Grapefruit

I’ve seen a lot of “how to broil a grapefruit” pins floating around on Pinterest lately.

I’m pretty cautious about taking recipes offline (a lot of them are untested), and broiled grapefruit seemed a bit out there. See, my grandmother used to serve me grapefruit, amongst other yummy, healthy foods such as pumpernickel bread and oatmeal.

She never let me put sugar on my grapefruit, and to this day, I’m an avid plain grapefruit eater. So when I saw yummy looking broiled, sugared up grapefruits on Pinterest, I had my doubts. The whole point of grapefruit is that it’s really good for you.

Sugar, brown sugar, cinnamon, etc…all those extras diminish that. However, curiousity overcame me, and I decided to try one.

Turns out, broiled grapefruit is sweet and easy!

How To Broil a Grapefruit

How To Broil a Grapefruit

How to Broil a Grapefruit:

First step, turn on your broiler. Should only take a few minutes for it to heat up.

Prepare your grapefruit with a simple combination of:

Splenda (I used one pack for both halves, but you can use more)

A Sprinkle of Ginger, Cinnamon and Nutmeg (as much as you prefer)

I used the sugar and spices sparingly, and after tasting it, I would probably be a little more generous. I broiled it for less than 10 minutes, when the edges browned a little bit. Pulled it out of the oven, let it cool for a few minutes, then dug in.

The first bite was decent. I was thinking that it still tasted like regular grapefruit, and then- OMG WHAT IS THAT NECTAR OF THE GODS!? The warm grapefruit juice mixed in with those sweet little extras is absolutely amazing!

I dug into the rest of my two halves. I definitely recommend it for breakfast, or even as a healthy snack. Like I said, I would probably make sure the spices were a little more spread out.

What do you think?
Is this recipe a hit or a miss?

How to Have a Great Week: An Experiment

Can you plan how to have a great week? I’m going to find out. First, a little explanation behind this project:

I recently read something about how the start to every week is like a new beginning. I’m open minded, but even this made me shake my head a little. I mean, what can really change in the span of one week?

That got me thinking. Can you anticipate, dare I say it, plan to have a great week? When it comes to how to have a great week, I’m definitely not an expert, so I thought about over for a few days, musing over weeks of the past, and trying to put my finger on what really made them great. 

how to have a great week

Me, having the best week ever.

I’m interested in finding out, so I’m planning that starting tomorrow, I will have an amazing week. After some deliberation, I made a list of things that have made other days or weeks, “great” in my book. Here are my pledges for how to have a great week.

How to Have a Great Week, Melissa Style:

 

I will eat well.

I love fresh fruit and veggies, so I’m going to eat more of them this week.
Less eating out of the vending machine at work, less fried food and less caffeine.

I will find something to laugh about every single day. 

I’ve tried to do more of this. Instead of stressing out over small things, focus on the bigger picture. Relax and laugh more.

I will stay on top of my game. 

I’m going to plan ahead and be proactive to stay on top of my game. That means no excuses,  no procrastinating.
I’m going to plan out my week tonight to make sure I don’t miss anything.

I will exercise.

I love zumba, but I don’t make time for classes. I always tell myself it’s because I don’t have time, which is true, but I realize I need to make time.

I won’t drink.

I’m not drinking this week, unless it’s lots of water and tea.

I will look my best.

I’m going to go out of my way to look my best. Look good, feel good.

I will get plenty of rest.

I’ve been getting really poor sleep lately, so I’m going to strive to get better rest. Going to bed earlier, getting a longer night’s sleep.

I will finally do that ‘one thing’ I’ve been wanting to do.

We all have these- “I really want to try/do this but I can’t because __________.” No can’ts this week, only cans!

Be super honest, even if I don’t want to.

Self explanatory. I want to be as honest as I can all week.

What do you think?
Will my how to have a great week experiment pay off?

Nerdy Glasses, and the Cute Geeks Who Wear Them

I don’t care what anyone says, nerdy glasses are cute. Even better- the geeks behind them. Retailers such as Ray-Ban, Lens Crafters and Coastal offer incredibly trendy frames, likely inspired by some of these geeks. I picked out the best nerds out there, and found similar frames you can make your own.

1. Clark Kent and his Nerdy Glasses (the original, not that doofus from the CW)

Clark Kent Nerdy Glasses

Clark Kent Glasses

I don’t care what anyone says, the original Clark Kent was a sexy beast. I’ve always liked Superman, I cheer for the underdog and I like the color red. However, it is my humble opinion that Spiderman could easily kick Superman’s ass by injecting kryptonite into his webs. Whatever- look like Clark Kent with these awesome glasses:

Tortoise Shell Nerdy Glasses

Tortoise Shell Ray Ban Glasses

 

2. Tina Fey and her Cat-Eyed Glasses (30 Rock and beyond)

nerdy glasses

Tina Fey’s nerdy glasses are the best.

Whoever claims not to like Tina Fey is totally lying. Not only is she an amazing writer, she’s hilarious. If you haven’t seen her in 30 Rock, you need to press pause on your life for at least three days and watch it in it’s entirety. Nothing says geek like Liz Lemon’s adorable glasses.

nerdy glasses

LensCrafters black cat eyed glasses

3.  Gregory Peck and his round framed, nerdy glasses in To Kill A Mockingbird

Gregory Peck Nerdy Glasses

Gregory Peck in Glasses

Out of all the movies that have been transformed into horrible remakes, I’m mostly glad that TKAM has not been. I mean c’mon, no one is ever going to beat Gregory Peck as  the intellectual Atticus Finch.
He’s the definition of the perfect intellectual.

nerdy glasses

Round geeky glasses like Atticus Finch

 

4.  Nathan Fillion and his thin rimmed glasses in Castle, Firefly

nerdy glasses

Nathan Fillion, Castle

Is Nathan Fillion a geek? Not sure, but he’s super cute. I’ve never seen him in Firefly, but I absolutely love him in Castle. A charming, funny, writer with a huge heart? Yes!

nerdy glasses

Nathan Fillion’s geeky, nerdy glasses

5. Ducky and his infamous nerdy glasses from Pretty in Pink

pretty in pink nerdy glasses

Ducky from Pretty in Pink

Ducky, aka a young Jon Cryer, from Pretty in Pink is one of the most underrated romantic characters ever.  Honest, kind, and fully embraces his geekiness. I still can’t believe she picked the rich kid. I mean c’mon…….really? Get it together, Ringwald.

Round nerdy glasses

Round nerdy glasses, inspired by Ducky.

Which nerdy glasses and nerd is your favorite?

Seven Areas of Improvement

I once read an article about Michelle Kwan’s father. I don’t remember when, or any specific details about it, but it basically talked about her trying to be the best version of herself. She’d  ask her father to write down less than redeeming qualities, ways she could improve.

I’m on a constant quest of self discovery and adventure, so I’m definitely game for this. However, I don’t think my delicate ego could bear anyone telling me about the worst parts of myself. Instead, I decided to do it myself.

I’ve been stuck in a funk for awhile now. I don’t know if it’s winter or what, but lately, I haven’t felt passionate or excited about anything. Even old episodes of Veronica Mars haven’t helped.

So here’s a list of ways I want to improve over the next few months:

Spend more time outside. 

I used to love playing outside as a kid. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve only found more ways to stay inside. Regardless of whether it’s running, playing football or camping, I definitely want to get outside more.

Find a way to intimidate myself.

In college, I worked at Victoria’s Secret. I don’t think I ever told anyone why. Growing up, I was shy and super awkward. I felt really uncomfortable going into VS. After a particularly bad breakup, I decided to apply there. It was way outside my comfort zone, and I desperately wanted to break out of my shell. It worked. Which leads me to the next one…

Regain my confidence.

In the past year or so, I’ve learned so much about myself. Somewhere in the process walking on egg shells when it came to any decision or personal choice, carefully choosing the right words for every single thing I said… I lost a lot of confidence. One of my favorite things about myself has always been the way I take (sometimes crazy) chances, and I truly feel as if I’ve lost that part of myself.

Keep on moving.

I spend so much time behind my computer. I want to do something with my body. Not only do I want to, I have to. Somewhere in my clusterF of a schedule, I need to make time to be a little more active.

Write more letters.

It’s no secret I love to write, but I used to really really enjoy writing letters. If anyone is in the market for a pen pal, I’m game. If we’re friends, expect a letter from me eventually.

Learn more.

When I did Melissa’s 100, I felt like I was learning something new about myself every single day. I loved it, and I miss that. I’m hoping a conscious effort and passion to learn new things will lead me in the right direction.

Have better relationships. 

It’s been a very long time since I felt close to someone. Outside of my marriage, I have a very small group of individuals I’m close with. I’d like to open up a little bit and trust people again.

One-of-a-Kind Bathroom Decorating Ideas Worth Giving a Shot

If your bathroom’s appearance is starting to tire you out, maybe it’s about time that you freshen up its look. No, you don’t have to flip it from the ground up to change its overall mood and energy. A few key changes here and there could go a long way to transform this space from drab to fab. However, if you’re not too keen with the idea of applying conventional decor into your bath, here are some cool ideas you can try to give your bathroom a fresh face with a unique twist.

Graphic Walls

Graphic Walls

Graphic Walls

Repainting your bathroom walls is a great way to configure its look. But, why just stop with monotone walls when you can go a little graphic? How, you ask? By tiling them into two-tone wide, horizontal stripes. Pick two tile colors (preferably two coordinating light tones) and use them to cover your walls, alternately forming thick horizontal bands around the room. The stripes are a great element that can bring movement and pattern to an otherwise border-less room without necessarily making the space look cluttered.

 

Theraputic Floor

Theraputic Floor

Therapeutic Floor

If you want to give your bathroom a spa-like feel, one of the best ways to achieve that is to switch to pebble flooring. Unique, durable, safe and attractive, a pebble or even a cobblestone floor will not only make your bathroom appear luxurious, it can also provide therapeutic benefits. As your feet have the most pressure points in your body, standing or walking on a smooth pebbled floor will give your feet a massaging effect, leaving them feeling relaxed. Hence, a pebble flooring is definitely a great addition to your bath that serves multiple purpose.

 

Faux Window

Faux Window

Faux Window

Try bringing the view outdoors right inside your bath by creating a faux window on one wall. This is a great way to transform a blank wall into a focal point inside your bath. Instead of drawing a scene directly on the wall and painting it, an easier option is to apply a wallpaper with an outdoor scene print on the expanse of the wall and cover it with glass. To make the faux window more realistic, frame it applying panels on all four sides. This way, the surface looks just like a real window.

Under Cabinet Lighting

Under Cabinet Lighting

Under-cabinet lighting

If you have a small bath, a good solution to make it look expansive is to layer the lights. However, don’t just limit the use of lights overhead; integrate lights under your bathroom vanity and cabinets as well. It’s an excellent decorating trick that will not only improve the visibility inside your bathroom, it also helps in highlighting open spaces underneath, which, in turn, makes a compact bathroom feel larger.

As you can see, there are many ways you can add a unique touch to your bathroom. While not all of them are inexpensive to integrate, you can be assured that they are well worth the expense. With these clever additions, your bathroom will definitely become one of your favorite spots inside the house.

 

 

This home improvement advice was provided by Robert for Steel Buildings UK, one of the largest cold rolled steel buildings provider in the country. Robert’s interest in interior design, home decoration, and home improvment led him to dig more information on the said topics. He is now tirelessly sharing his knowledge with his fellow enthusiasts and home owners through his online articles.